Even though they’re not my otp, I always get inexplicably offended
pissedwhenever someone says Samcedes is unrealistic and that a pairing like that just “doesn’t happen in real life.”
Because that statement negates my entire existence.
And that bugs.
But it is unrealistic and it very rarely happens in real life. Maybe you and your significant other are that one in a million couple. Kudos to you. But that’s no reason to be delusional about the state of the world we live in. And the fact that people are clinging to Samcedes at all and get annoyed when others point out the fact that it is an unrealistic relationship is problematic in itself. You’re not eradicating stereotypes, you’re IGNORING it. You get annoyed because people pointing out that a relationship like Samcedes would never happen in real life perpetuates stereotypes about beauty. Well, guess what? Those stereotypes about beauty EXIST in real life. And it’s because those stereotypes exist that people think Samcedes could never happen. Just because you DON’T WANT these stereotypes to exist, doesn’t mean you can ignore the fact that they do. You’re not helping people to see why this way of thinking is wrong. You’re giving them false hope. Pretending that we live in a world where everything is rainbows and sunshine. But we don’t. And of course, I WANT so desperately for people to think that plus-sized women are beautiful and gorgeous and worthy of every good thing in life. But society will never understand this when PEOPLE CLING TO A RELATIONSHIP LIKE SAMCEDES. Because it represents the exact OPPOSITE of that belief. Because it’s a problem! People are storing their faith in Samcedes because it is their hope for THEMSELVES. Plus-sized women see Sam and Mercedes and think to themselves that they could get a guy like Sam to love them. Which is great. Wonderful. I encourage them to believe that. But it’s not okay for this dream of having a thin man fall for you to become something that your HOPE for. It’s not okay for you to ship Samcedes because it gives you hope. You’re letting this belief hinder you from accepting reality and become a grotesque. By holding on to this, it’s unhealthy. And even worse, it is hypocritical. Here we are preaching to people that Mercedes is a beautiful, plus-sized woman, all the while wanting her with the beautiful, thin white male. What does that say to you? These same women who want size equality are the same people who are holding out hope to find their Sam Evans. Seriously? Do we not see how internally screwed up that is? To want the attractive thin male to fall for them, that’s their desire. But for an attractive plus-sized man to fall for them, it is not what they hope for in the back of their mind. They are FEEDING the stereotypes. By claiming that Mercedes “deserves” Sam. She deserves that beautiful, thin white male. Because she is beautiful herself. But she would be just as beautiful if she was with Shane. Why is Shane or someone who looks like Shane undeserving of HER? It’s all hypocrisy. Women need to stop holding on to these ships because it gives them hope and start living in reality. I encourage women to understand their self-worth and beauty. But, guess what? You don’t need the attractive, thin white male to make you understand that about yourself.
I wasn’t referring to myself, I was talking about my parents.
And as for everything else, I don’t understand how any of it applies to the post I made.
Does it matter? If it’s your parents or you? It still amounts to the same. And it applies because your post said that you get annoyed when people say Samcedes is an unrealistic ship. And that is problematic for all the reasons I listed in my reply.
You’ve made some valid points about living off the hope of a fictional couple. The problem I have is that you basically said the reality that Amaya has been living with all her life is unrealistic. Just because it may not be your personal reality or you may have not seen it in your everyday life doesn’t make it unrealistic. Relationship like Samcedes might be rare, but they do exist. When you say it’s unrealistic you are denying this woman’s existence, the relationship of her parents, and any other couple with the same physical attributes of Samcedes along with whatever offspring they may have. Now it could be entirely possible that maybe this was just a case of you needing to chose your words more carefully.